Why Can Guys Be So Insensitive?

[Beachead]

Alright then...I guess you know what to do then. Goodluck, I'm pretty sure he'll be thinking of how he screwed things up. I wish you all the best for this...don't worry, you two will patch things up.

-Beachead

[D e a t h . S t a r . R a v e n]

just dump him.you dont have time to waste it on stupiidty.

[NISHA LAMHEAD]

Yeah.. he sounds like a jerk.

[Kenny]

I know this might not be what you want to hear but from the perspective of a guy I'll be as honest as possible with you...

From what I've read so far, and reading about his actions and behavior toward you he doesn't really want to be in a relationship with you anymore. He's trying to make excuses for being mad at you and trying to put blame on you so that he can create a reason to end the relationship and not look like the "bad guy" but he is being a jerk and I think you deserve a lot better. I really hope things work out for you, maybe he is just having some troubles in his life that is causing such a shift in attitude and behavior and maybe you can turn the relationship around. Good luck =)

[façade]

Jocelynn. Forget him. You deserve more than that. <333

[Subconscious Nostalgia]

So, how did things turn out?

[vanilla Storm]

There must be something that he's denying to. He wants to dig up the past to use that against you in someway. That's his problem, you need to get on with your life. Don't let what he needs to say get in the way of your happiness, and if that's the case, you need to find a better solution to your relationship.

[CheRRyDj13]

first it goes off like this.

after that is the "sweet time" wen that happen its the callings and names.

..then is the aftermath.
he is sweet at first. and nice. 1 or 2 months later after BONDAGE.

..he wants everything his way. if u dont call me ima hate u, or swears at u or hits u. this is most likely he wants control.

first you should have established equall controll in the beginning and not let yourself melt in into he being into a drama queen for stupid stuff. he gets jealous easily if u talk to another guy right??

..this is called Distrust. couples need to negotiate what should be complainable aand not. do not let a guy EVER bitch at you for this reason: Why didnt u call me?
you: i was busy im on vacation?
him: See you dont wana talk to me

...u prob say well im on vacation, and he bitches. thismeans he wants everything for Him. thats mostly it. most likely they get angry over stupid situations like vacation

..dont let him do this. set the line and say we have to talk., quietly. and if he gets angry wen u put up the issue with trust, tell him why should u get angry if im the one always getting targeted

anyways gl with ur drama bf.

[John]

Well, nice guys finishes last. You won't be interested in him if he is all caring.

[NewClassic]

Originally Posted by CheRRyDj13

first it goes off like this.

after that is the "sweet time" wen that happen its the callings and names.

..then is the aftermath.
he is sweet at first. and nice. 1 or 2 months later after BONDAGE.

..he wants everything his way. if u dont call me ima hate u, or swears at u or hits u. this is most likely he wants control.

first you should have established equall controll in the beginning and not let yourself melt in into he being into a drama queen for stupid stuff. he gets jealous easily if u talk to another guy right??

..this is called Distrust. couples need to negotiate what should be complainable aand not. do not let a guy EVER bitch at you for this reason: Why didnt u call me?
you: i was busy im on vacation?
him: See you dont wana talk to me

...u prob say well im on vacation, and he bitches. thismeans he wants everything for Him. thats mostly it. most likely they get angry over stupid situations like vacation

..dont let him do this. set the line and say we have to talk., quietly. and if he gets angry wen u put up the issue with trust, tell him why should u get angry if im the one always getting targeted

anyways gl with ur drama bf.

When I read this, I couldn't help but think you bear just a little bit of bitterness toward guys.

Maybe it was the blatantly slanted language, or the scorn you expressed against controlling guys, or it could've been the pure rage plainly visible in your words.

Mostly, though, it was unfair. I'm a guy, and as such, that whole passage is the exact reason that there are guys out there who try to control and manipulate girls. You make such a grand show of how the guy is always at fault.

Kinda makes you wonder why

Originally Posted by CheRRyDj13

im the one always getting targeted

As far as the original post goes, despite being two years old, might as well throw down some input.

The guy sounds unreasonable, and incapable of separating past from present. If he can't look past the little things, then there's no well in hell he'll ever forgive the larger things. That relationship is doomed to either crush your faith in the kindness of others, or fail.

My advice is not only get out, but get out fast. Maybe, though, this advice is too little too late.