Why Can Guys Be So Insensitive?

[John]

Originally Posted by CheRRyDj13

first it goes off like this.

after that is the "sweet time" wen that happen its the callings and names.

..then is the aftermath.
he is sweet at first. and nice. 1 or 2 months later after BONDAGE.

..he wants everything his way. if u dont call me ima hate u, or swears at u or hits u. this is most likely he wants control.

first you should have established equall controll in the beginning and not let yourself melt in into he being into a drama queen for stupid stuff. he gets jealous easily if u talk to another guy right??

..this is called Distrust. couples need to negotiate what should be complainable aand not. do not let a guy EVER bitch at you for this reason: Why didnt u call me?
you: i was busy im on vacation?
him: See you dont wana talk to me

...u prob say well im on vacation, and he bitches. thismeans he wants everything for Him. thats mostly it. most likely they get angry over stupid situations like vacation

..dont let him do this. set the line and say we have to talk., quietly. and if he gets angry wen u put up the issue with trust, tell him why should u get angry if im the one always getting targeted

anyways gl with ur drama bf.

Well, it really sound like you describing someone from the Maury show. Can't argue that those guys don't exist because I have several friends that been through such abusive relationships, however, there are many guys out in the world that are just plain nice, aka pushovers. The perfect outline of the "Prince Charming" relies in such nice person, yet, none get discovered because the world isn't a fairytale. Just because the person is nice and all caring would not make you attracted to him.

There's a article in Chinese would tells a story of a guy who shrive to be the nicest guy the girl would ever know. He is caring, kind, sensitive, and yet he keep getting rejected. Then he realized that girls don't want nice guys, they want the bad boys. So he completely change his ways, do drugs, hang out in KTVs, and he have alot of girlfriends. But at the end, he realized that he's not happy; he may got what he wanted, a girlfriend, but he lost what make him truly happy, the heart to love.

Won't say that is the case for every bad boy in the world, but mostly thats the case for alot of person. Girls don't want good, nice guys. To quote another article; nice, sensitive guys, send off a special type of vibe which tells the girls that they are desperate, they are needy. Things that are easy to have would not be treasured.