Why Can Guys Be So Insensitive?

[my perfect life ♥]

Seriously, my boyfriend (or ex) i dont really know. We're supposed to be together but after summer holidays, he's been really distant and gets off at me for the strangest reasons. He even accused me of being a b!tch about his frnds because me and one of his frnds (Jeffrey L) had a bad history. i dont even talk to Jeffrey much but he keeps insisting that i'm being a b!tch. Why does he have to be so insensitive? He knows that Jeffrey hurt me and I dont want to talk about it. He knows I love him ,but why does he seem to be like this now?

PLS HELP ME

[fariefalls]

it seems like it could be

a) he doesn't like you anymore and doesn't know how to express it.

b ) he doesn't like you anymore but doesn't want to be the one to break it off. he could be saying all these excuses so you could break up with him. it's stupid, but common.

c) he's being a plain asshole and you deserve better. anybody on BR does x)

*shrugs* good luck =)

[sparklepop.]

girl, you need someone better is all i can say.

first of all, boyfriends are supposed to care more about their
girl friends than their friends. and they are not supposed to
judge you according to what they're gay friends think.

second, if he's calling you a b!tch just because this jeffrey guy
thinks so DUMP HIS FREAKING ASS. you don't need him, noone
does.

break it off with him and find someone better. -princess sparklepop

[Subconscious Nostalgia]

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(sparklepop. @ Aug 21, 01:39 PM) [snapback]1994155[/snapback]</div>

first of all, boyfriends are supposed to care more about their
girl friends than their friends.
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Oh really? Then I hope that girlfriends will do the same.


And if this guy is getting distant while getting irritable at the same time... do as the others said and ditch him. He's not caring for you, don't care for him.

[summerbaby007]

kinda sounds like the situation im in right now.i dont know if this dude is my bf or not.but like the day i hook up with him his cousin or friend not really sure got jealous cuz i dump him for he always putting me off for tomorrow, so i dump him.Well that night he came to my house and try to get with me and like i tried to stop him but i couldnt.Now i tried to apologize he just kept saying no and the name of the other guy.He thinks i like the other guy when i dont, i like him and i know he likes me cuz well he is shy too..

but kinda sounds almost like urs.i dont know how to help...cuz i tried talking and it didnt work.but im going to try to get someone he knows to talk to him too..

That's usually how i try to solve my problems.Talk about them and ask for advice.Im just hoping he one day soon will accept my apology and not listen to other peoples.

[The_Cheat]

^I couldn't follow that...

Dump that guy, he's not worth your time.

[my perfect life ♥]

I know I should.
I've tried everything:
being nice, accomodating him, trying to know what happened.
I have to give up now.
Theres no point in dragging this any further right?

[fariefalls]

Theres no point in dragging this any further right?[/b]

the answer is: NO

YOU deserve better. YOU should end all this. He's the one being the jerk. He needs to get a life and think about how lucky he is to have such a nice girlfriend like YOU.

[Beachead]

Dear Perfect,

distant and irritable means there's something that bugging him. First off, you need to have a talk with him when the two of you are alone. Find out wuts up with that attitude of his and discuss your relationship together calmly and maturely. If you are serious about breaking up with him...or have contemplated it but you are unsure...then you need to explain to him that this is serious and we need to talk about it right now. Do this when you two sit down to talk.

Now if he's unwilling to do this...for some reason...which he won't explain...then you can break up with him if you choose to. But you must absolutely make sure that you tell him that this discussion is serious and there's no time for games.

Never jump to conclusions...cause you don't know exactly what it is. The only way to find out is to talk with him...all we can do in situations like this is advise you based on the information you give us. Our advice may not necessarily be correct and accurate because we don't know the whole story. However, you do...and my advice to you is to sit down with him...and have a serious discussion about wuts going on with him.

I hope things clear up
-Beachead

[my perfect life ♥]

He doesn't want to talk to me.
I've tried so many times, my friends say i'm acting really desperate now.
I really love him and all, but if he can't even communicate with me... what's the point?
It'll hurt I know, but it's going to hurt even more if I drag it even longer.
I wish he understood, but I guess he doesn't