Dating In High School

[bbyxchinq]

Dating in highschool depends on you. I agree with everyone else about how it gives you a lot of experience& how you learn new things. Sometimes, you have to be careful because sometimes guys will fool you. It all depends on what you want to do& what you think, not what everyone here thinks. We're just here for advice.

[ursypretty]

I don't think the answer is to not be as serious about it. I think that you shouldn't just get with a guy because it's the thing that's done. You should go out with some one because they really mean something to you and you want to spend more time with them. Also, if he's thinking of ending your relationship, it means he probably doesn't care enough about you anyway. I'm in highschool and dating a guy a year ahead of me. We don't plan on breaking up when he graduates.

[my_papaya]

I would. I haven't found anyone I've particularly wanted to date, but I would give it a try.

What I love the most, though, is when someone says they're through dating in high school and get a girlfriend within a week. And then beak up within another. I love high schoolers. They're my favorites. I want to stay here forever!

[AmyWithThe*Shades]

Sm00thCha0s, I'm glad you put that bit in there about how you want to save your love for a guy. That's an excellent point that a lot of girls really don't think about.

I think along the same lines as you.
This probably best describes where I stand:

I think that dating is alright in high school. Dating doesn't necessarily mean having a boyfriend, it just means that you go out alone with guys that you have interest in. In my view, it's really fine to be dating multiple guys at once. Dating gives you the freedom to still do that fun flirty stuff, but you're not tied down to any commitements yet.
I think if I met a really great guy right now and, after awhile of dating, I really liked him: I would consider being his girlfriend. I've had two [technical] boyfriends before, as well and luckily for me: they were really non-serious. I don't want my heart messed around with and be handing out that intimate love with every guy .. I should be saving it for my husband.

My mom wasn't allowed to date until she got into college. Therefore, she didn't really know how to act around guys and whatnot. While her parents were very extreme, and didn't let her hang out with guys AT ALL, I think it's a good thing to get some of that going out experience in high school.

My goal right now is for things to be casual. It's easy for me to fall for a guy.. but I'm having a strong hold on my emotions. They're too important to play around with.

[Sex Goddess]

I think that dating in high school is definetely worth it. It gives yoou a chance to see what kinds of guys there are out there so that when you do get older and ready to get into a serious relationship, you know what qualities you want to see in the guy and which qualities you can live without.

Here's another way I like to look at it: When you date in high school, everything is, well, not necessarilly very serious. Some moments are awkward, some moments make you wonder what on earth the guy is thinking, etc. Hell, maybe you do fall in love once. But when you meet the guy you want to be with forever, everything you do with him feels so much better. If you have bad past experiences, you will truly realize how wonderful and special your guy is when he goes the extra mile for you. And from personal experience, it is because of my bad past experiences with guys that I've come to appreciate my current boyfriend.

Obviously, I can't speak for the other side. But after having gone through four years of high school dating, it really hasn't affected me all that much in a negative way.

[pimpinpinkllama]

oh gosh, if you think dating in high school is bad you should see some people i know...there's a school that a bunch of my friends go to where they start going out in like 5th grade. which i think is absolutely ridiculous and definitely pointless.
but anyways. i think dating in high school is good as long as you're both... reasonably mature teehee. even if you don't end up getting married and whatnot, the relationship teaches you things that you'll need to know for the one you will get married to.

[bbyxwishes]

what's wrong with dating in high school? as long as you guys are mature about things. i learned a lot from my relationships in high school.