merged: Grades

[`PunkieMoi]

I got my grades back yesterday and I got avergae but it was sorta on the low side. I was afraid to tell my mom because I knew she wasn't going to be happy. I told her and she was upset and she said some really hurtful things to me like
I was worthless and I was better off not being born and that I was just a waste of time and stuff. I mean I can't help not being good on that subject or maybe I was nervous but when parents say that, it hurts

[krayziekid727]

As long as you tried your best it's not a big deal and you're still passing so again not a big deal. If you don't understand a certain subject you need to get the motivation and stay afterschool with teachers/tutors and maybe get some clarification.
As for your mom she's going way out of line. And she's giving you verbal abuse which isn't right. Shrug it off, ignore her, get good grades for yourself and your future, not to please anyone else. It can't hurt you if you don't let it.

[dogo]

actually.. grades do matter... if you want a future... good grades help.. if you don't... and just want to work at.. mcdonalds.. or something.. then good grades don't matter... usualy.. if i get one B.... thats a bad grade lol... but according to my mom... "all you need to think about is school.. nothing else... after your in college.. you can do w/e u want"

[krayziekid727]

Yeah but also it's on if she tried her best. And I didn't say grades didn't matter, I was just saying that if she tried her best, her mom shouldn't be so hard on her. She's getting average grades so at least she's not failing. You just need more motivation and determination.

[Sunnysidedown828]

well...

Its a difficult situation to be in.
But I suggest that u do better next time.
No sense dwellin on the past.
Realize that in the end, its your future and when you're trying to get into college, this might affect you.
She's tryin to help u realize that before u ruin your future.
Get tutoring and try harder!

[krayziekid727]

She's tryin to help u realize that before u ruin your future.[/b]

I don't think so. I'm sure everyone would love to be helped by being told by their mothers that they are

worthless and better off not being born and that I was just a waste of time and stuff[/b]

. But personally, I don't find that right or helpful in the least bit. Talk about the worst way to boost self esteem.

[sailormei]

Originally posted by dogo@Jun 3 2004, 02:54 PM
actually.. grades do matter... if you want a future... good grades help.. if you don't... and just want to work at.. mcdonalds.. or something.. then good grades don't matter... usualy.. if i get one B.... thats a bad grade lol... but according to my mom... "all you need to think about is school.. nothing else... after your in college.. you can do w/e u want"

In fact, I heard that if you even wanna work at McD`s, you have to have a high school diploma!!

[ms_perfectionista]

Awww sweetie. Your mom's probably stressed on her own life and she used you to let go of that stress. Sometimes parents don't know how to communicate with their children and they end up hurting them instead of motivating them.

As for your mom's words, brush it off. You KNOW you're worthy and you KNOW you're smart. Even though you're hurting inside, let it be a wake-up call for you. First of all, prove to yourself that you can do BETTER in your classes. Put in more time on your homework, spend less time doing uneducational activities, ask a tutor if you can, etc. Live your own expectations and not anyone else's. You just need a little push and you'll do fine next time.

Goodluck!

[krayziekid727]

Awww sweetie. Your mom's probably stressed on her own life and she used you to let go of that stress. Sometimes parents don't know how to communicate with their children and they end up hurting them instead of motivating them.

As for your mom's words, brush it off. You KNOW you're worthy and you KNOW you're smart. Even though you're hurting inside, let it be a wake-up call for you. First of all, prove to yourself that you can do BETTER in your classes. Put in more time on your homework, spend less time doing uneducational activities, ask a tutor if you can, etc. Live your own expectations and not anyone else's. You just need a little push and you'll do fine next time.

Goodluck!* [/b]

I think you should win first prize for most positive replies..lol

[ms_perfectionista]

Originally posted by krayziekid727@Jun 3 2004, 06:09 PM

I think you should win first prize for most positive replies..lol [/b]

Haha. I should huh? Well there's nothing really she can do with her mom's words since she already heard it. What she can do is turn her words to something more positive to motivate her.

Glad to see you've accepted my offer, krayziekid727.